Oct 13

Welcome to another edition of Unshakable, Unbreakable, Unstoppable Stories with Bonnie Jean.

Average. Normal. Ordinary. Invisible. Unnoticed. That’s the way I felt all through middle school and high school and college. I felt that way because I never truly excelled at anything I did.

I wanted to, though. I wanted to be extraordinary. I wanted to be recognized, to be noticed, to be great.

I remember being about 14 or 15 and standing in my bedroom feeling frustrated and depressed. I can see the exact spot in my room where I was standing the moment this thought entered my mind for the very first time: “I wish I could find that one thing I’m great at, that one thing I’m better at than anyone else.”

I wanted to be dainty and fashionable and popular, but I wasn’t any good at being ‘cool.’

I wasn’t a nerd either. I made good grades, but I wasn’t the best student. Other kids in my class were smarter and made better grades without studying as much as I did.

I wasn’t great at anything musical. I couldn’t sing well and I never learned how to play an instrument, so being great as a singer or musician was out of the question.

I secretly wanted to be a great actress, but I was too timid to try out for any plays in high school. Besides, I played sports year round and took the toughest classes available to me, so I didn’t have time to act anyway.

That seemed to leave sports as my chance at finding greatness. But on every team I played for, at least one teammate was better than me. I wanted to be a great softball player, but I just didn’t have the talent to go where my dreams wanted to take me.

That’s why I felt frustrated that day. I knew in my heart of hearts that although I was a good athlete, I wasn’t great and that no matter how hard I tried, I would always be just good, ordinary and average. I played with people better than me, and they didn’t try near as hard. I gave everything I had, but that was never enough.

So I wanted to find that one thing. That one thing where I could be the best. I prayed for God to show me what that was so that I could stand out and be recognized and noticed.

I wanted to know what it felt like to be in the spotlight. To have people come to me for advice. To have people come to me for help. To have people look up to me.

I didn’t discover that one thing until years later. That’s because the one thing I have the chance to be great at came so naturally to me that I didn’t even realize I was more talented than the majority of people in that area.

I just assumed everyone was as good at it as I was because it seemed so easy, so normal and so usual to be able to do.

I overlooked my talent, so I got a late start developing it. I haven’t reached a level of greatness yet, but I will. It’s just going to take a lot of practice, a lot of learning and a lot of confidence.

My one thing is writing. You have one thing, too. You have the chance to figure it out now, to start developing it now. So by the time you are my age, you will have already reached a level of greatness and will be on your way to superior excellence.

Think about it. What do you do better than anyone else around you?

It can be anything. The way you make friends. Sports. Music. Writing. Acting. Dancing. Design.

You have a gift, a natural talent, one thing you’re great at. Find out what your one thing is, then challenge yourself to become better and better at that.

That’s how you develop and build your unshakable confidence.

To Your Dreams,
Bonnie Jean

P.S. Please don’t wait as long as I did to find your unshakable confidence! Life is really much more fun when you set goals and take action to make them happen. No matter how old you are, you can be an unshakable, unbreakable, unstoppable Dream Doer today! To help, I want to give you three FREE gifts, which includes the entire audio book of The Dream Doers and the Summer of Secrets. To claim your FREE gifts, visit TheDreamDoers.com now.

Sep 01

Unshakable, Unbreakable, Unstoppable Stories

Bonnie Jean Schaefer here, author of The Dream Doers and the Summer of Secrets.

Altogether, it took me NINE years to write that book and get it published. So you think I’d be thrilled when I saw it reach #13 on the Amazon bestseller list, right?

Not so much. I mean, I was glad that after spending nine years writing, editing, rewriting and editing some more, people were buying my book that I worked so hard on for so many years.

Only that was the problem. People were buying the book. If they bought it, they would probably read it. And the thought of lots of people reading my book freaked me out.

What if they didn’t like it? What if they thought the story was horrible? What if they thought I was a terrible writer? What if they realized I was just pretending to be a writer when no one gave me permission to publish my book?

I wasn’t used to letting people read what I wrote. I was more comfortable writing because I like to write, not writing because I thought people would want to read my story.

The only way I could think of to stop my fears and doubts from coming true was to stop promoting my story. If I didn’t market it, then no one would know about it. If no one knew about it, they wouldn’t buy it. If they didn’t buy it, they wouldn’t read it. And I would be safe.

What I was missing was CONFIDENCE in myself and my writing ability. I didn’t believe I could be a #1 bestselling author, so I didn’t let it happen. I didn’t believe I was a gifted writer, so I stopped letting people read what I wrote.

I was very good at doubting myself, but I wasn’t very good at living with unshakable confidence. Until recently, that is. You see, I’m getting more and more confident in myself every day. (Plus I’m so confident you’ll love my story that I’m giving it away here.)

How have I been able to gain confidence in myself and my dreams? Well, that’s a long story, and I’ll get around to telling you all about it. First, though, I want to take you back to when I was a kid.

When I was growing up, I found it easier to doubt myself than believe in myself. I found it easier to be shy and timid than I did to be the bold, adventurous me I dreamed of being. And when you don’t have confidence in yourself, it’s hard to make friends.

For instance, when I started a new school in the fourth grade, I was so nervous and scared and unsure of myself that it took me until the fifth grade to make my very first friend in that school.

In next week’s post, I’ll share how I went from having no friends to making a friend for life.

To Your Dreams,
Bonnie Jean

P.S. Please don’t wait as long as I did to find your unshakable confidence! Life is really much more fun when you set goals and take action to make them happen. No matter how old you are, you can be an unshakable, unbreakable, unstoppable Dream Doer today! To help, I want to give you three FREE gifts, which includes the entire audio book of The Dream Doers and the Summer of Secrets. To claim your FREE gifts, visit TheDreamDoers.com now.

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